Greetings, friends! It’s been a while since I’ve written, and that was actually kind of deliberate. I’m making a few changes to the content on this blog, which I’ll address in the next post. Now to the rant!
As I’m sure you’ve all seen (because everyone has to post the SAME story on Facebook, with variations of the SAME caption), a company created a Kickstarter for a romper for men, called a RompHim. And people lost their minds. Here are juts a few of the comments I saw…..
- OMG, men can’t wear rompers! Those are for girls!
- Why are men always trying to steal awesome things from women? Ugh, just let us have our fashion.
- I prefer my men a little more manly! I don’t want to see a grown ass man dressing like a woman.
- What kind of man wears girl’s clothes? That’s just gross!!
Do you see the theme here? If you can’t tell, the theme is aggressive sexism, and gender bias. And nothing chaps my hide like people acting the fool.
My very most favorite model, Rain Dove. Smashing the gender norms!
First of all, clothes don’t have a gender. Say it with me, y’all: CLOTHING HAS NO GENDER. The gendering of certain items of clothing and colors was created by marketers. The people who work so hard to sell you shit. A shirt is just a shirt. The only reason clothes have a gender is to make people buy it. So please, stop gendering pieces of fabric.
Second, the article of clothing isn’t called a rompHER. It’s just called a Romper. As in “a person who romps.” Romping also has no gender. Men romp, women romp, non-binary people romp. A romper has no gender. Also, dudes have been wearing jumpsuits FOREVER. They’ve been getting naked in bathroom stalls to poop longer than women have.
If your fragile male ego, or misplaced feminism is having you get up in arms about an article of clothing, you need Jesus. You need to stop and ask yourself “Why does this bother me? Why do I care so much what another human being put on their body? And why do I care if it’s considered girly or manly?” Because more often than not, you care because you either think it says something about you (which it doesn’t) or you don’t understand it. That’s fine. Rompers are complicated pieces of clothing. Arm holes, leg holes, buttons…… there’s a lot going on in one garment.
The world is such a gendered place, y’all. A grossly gendered place that works really hard to fit people into boxes of who they SHOULD be. But wouldn’t it be nice if we could just be who we actually are, instead of trying to fit some arbitrary gender rules? Is it really going to hurt anyone if a dude wears a romper, or if a woman wears a suit? Or if someone chooses to not express a gender at all? Instead of perpetuating these long-held, ridiculous rules about what a man/woman is supposed to be, what if we just ignored them? Just allowed people to BE? That would be so much easier than the endless policing of other people, their bodies, their clothes, and their gender.
ROMPERS FOR EVERYONE!!!
Want to see some cool clothing lines that are designing without gender bias? Check out these 12 companies! Looking for more info about gender neutral style, queer fashion, and general style/body positivity? Visit Qwear!